Let's Talk About It

One of the greatest lessons I have ever learned, it to talk to people about what you want and what you need.   Being honest and sharing this important part of yourself is so important if you want to have relationships with people that are deep, meaningful and long lasting. 

If you are able to share your feelings, your wants and desires with the people in your life, without attaching to the outcome, then you are on your  way to enjoying deep meaningful discussions and a renewed sense of something being very right with the world. 

We often try to mask our feelings, or hide what we truly want to say when we are talking to people.  The thing is that most of the time, if there is something bothering you and you try to hide it, the other person will surely sense that something is not quite right.  The receiver of what you are saying, can sense that things are not what they seem and then often they will try to figure out what the situation really is.  Trying to read between the lines is not really the best way to communicate. 

I have always known that being honest and straight forward is the best way to approach people.  When you are completely honest, you don't have to worry about what you might have told the other person before.  What we need to remember is that when we say things to people that we are feeling, we must remember to frame it in such a way that the receiver is able to hear that what is being said is being said with love and kindness. When you are unkind, sarcastic, mean and abusive, derogatory then you do not have the other persons feelings in mind.  When you do that, you come from a very different place, than someone who has mastered tact and a loving way of communicating. 

I think that people get it when you are sincere and honest.  Talking things over in a gentle, non combative way is the best way to gain trust, and respect and love in any relationship. 

I also believe that listening when someone is talking to you is so very important.  When someone is expressing their feelings, they are sharing their heart with you.  They want you to know what their deepest feelings are, and sometimes it cn be very hard to open up, so listen, and hear what they have to say, and then answer with an honest loving heart.