They can only bring to the table what they know.

They can only bring to the table what they know.

When I look at the people I know in my life, I have often questioned why people do the things they do?  Why does one person feel at peace when another is filled with hate, anger and rage?  Why are some able to overcome huge obstacles and move forward while others will never let go of their anger, fear and resentment?

I am not saying that just because a person brings to the table what they know you need to live with it or be with it.  I am saying that if it does not work for you, move away from it.  Find like minded people who can bring to the table the same amount of what you know or more.  Let those who do not have the capacity for being on the same page go.

Tragedy, trauma and grief, can either make you or break you.  It’s up to you how you handle it.  I have proven in my own life over and over again that whatever comes my way is a lesson that needs to be learned and how I react to it is up to me.  If I react in a way that does not serve me, and does not serve the ones I love, then I will be with it for a very long time, but if I choose to react with a different thought, then I can move beyond it in no time.  We must remember to try and live in the present moment.  That is all there is.  The past is gone, and the future is completely unknown, so why not let go of both and live in this moment, and this moment.  As the saying goes the present is like a gift. Look at each day as a gift.  The ones who love you want to be present with you, want to love being with you and want to enjoy what little time we all have together.  Be present with those who love you, those you love and there will be much more joy.  Let go of anger and resentment.  Why not speak to each other with love and kindness, it takes much less energy.  Empower each other, not just once in a while or when someone is looking, but always.    

If you feel that someone has done something to you, look at how to move past it and forgive and forget.  Forgive yourself first, then forgive them, for they can only bring to the table what they know. 

When we are born we are an empty canvas, and as life unfolds, there is so much that can make us a masterpiece.  I recently went to the Art Museum and I loved many of the art exhibits, but there was one, which was very disturbing to me and so I chose not to spend much time there.  It was a very contemporary exhibit which left me feeling almost panicked and nervous.  These were the expressions of young artists who were putting to canvas what I believe to be their emotions.  There seemed to be anger, confusion and tortured minds in some of these pieces of art. Art and music are emotional.  They can evoke emotions of all kinds from people and this exhibit sure did that for me.  I was so happy with the innocence of some of the art I had seen only moments before, and it felt like something hit me hard when I looked at some of the contemporary paintings.  We are continually being bombarded by things that are unpleasant everywhere around us.  To me that means that people are bringing to the table the things they are familiar with, and in my way of thinking there is too much negative being promoted in our world today that I think it’s time to get back to the basics.  Years ago, television was fun to watch.  There were wonderful stories that made you think, but didn’t necessarily hit you in the face so hard that it made you sad.  Today, we have reality shows, dramas, murder mysteries, and so on.  We may have always had murder mysteries etc, but in today’s society it seems that the need for death and destruction is huge.  The bloodier and the gorier it is the more people will flock to it.  .  We need to get back to the good things, the simple things.   As a result, I rarely watch tv unless there is an event I wish to see.  If there is something violent on tv, I will either pass, or close my eyes to most of it.  I have chosen not to bring to the table any violent attitudes, or ideas.  I know that it is possible for all people to step back to the basics. 

I believe that people can only bring to the table what they know unless they are willing to evolve and work through what they know to gain a better understanding of themselves, others and the world around them.  Otherwise, it is possible that they will stay forever stuck.  

I know people who are so at peace, because they have found some way to overcome the traumas that life has given them.  There are a variety of ways to overcome.  Through counselling, spirituality, art, music, meditation, almost anything that you are passionate about, really.  When you find something that you are passionate about, then you can use it as a tool to be able to move past your grief, your fear, your loneliness, and a host of other problems that you may have.

I am always open to finding out what works best for people, and it is surprising how many of us find something that we become passionate about. 

Here are examples of what I know for me!  I know that the more I am in tune with my intuition, my spirituality, my loving nature and my meditation practice, the more I am able to let go and let things unfold as they should.   I don’t worry about what has happened or what will happen, because if I do that, then I will be constantly on the worry path.  I know people who worry their life away, I used to be one of them.  Then I found that worry is just another way to avoid being in the moment, to avoid being present with your life and your loved ones.