Connection

When you have a deep connection with someone, and a strong desire to be with them, then you need to ask for what you want out of the relationship.  Whether you live far away from each other or around the corner, it doesn't matter.  Life does not give us those connections every day, it is so important to recognize that and so it is important to make sure that you ask for what you want. History does not need to repeat itself.  Rewrite history and make a future. 

When I was in my 20s, 30, and 40s, I could not and would not ask for things that were important to me.  I was too shy and I was too afraid of what the outcome might be if I asked for something that I desired or that I wanted.   I believe in flow, but I also believe in letting others know what your needs are.  Now that I am in my 50's I have seen some of life, and while I may still feel shy about asking for what I need and want, I know that life is short and that I want to be able to do as much as I can for others and for me at the same time. I know now that when it's real, it's real nd you shouldn't let something like shyness, or distance, or whatever else stop you from asking for what you want.  I think it is better to ask than to let things slip away, and to have given up something that could be great.

Recently, I was working with one of my young clients who has become a friend to me.  She was very concerned about talking to her boyfriend about an issue that had come up for her.  I was lucky enough to help her to understand that walking into the fear, taking control of your life and going for something that might actually be the best thing that has ever happened to you is worth the risk.  When we fear the outcome of something it can paralyze us to the point where we loose all feeling in our hearts.  And at the end of the day we are asking ourselves what happened?  Where did the time go?  We then live with
regret for decisions that we have made in the past and things that we are now missing because we didnt go for it when it was there right in front of us waiting.  So ask for what you want in life.  Let the chips fall where they may, but ask. 

I recently worked with a friend on family issues and what to do with a family that has really drifted away from each other.  Ask for what you want.  Ask because you deserve to have what you want in your life. 

There are many things in life that you could have wished might be different, but today is a new day.  Ask for what you want,for what you need and feel how empowering and wonderful that feels.  No matter what the outcome, be ok with you and proud of being brave enough to ask.

Because if you don't go for what you want in your life, you may never have what you wish for.  The past is the past, today does not have to repeat history.  Today is a new day, and each day I am a new person.  I am proud to ask for what I want because I deserve it.  And so do you.